What I’ve Learned as a SAHM

Life is sometimes about self-discovery and in the month and a half since taking on my new role as a Stay-at-Home Mom, I’ve learned a few things about myself.

I need a new wardrobe. If I’m going to be a SAHM, I need to rock the SAHM uniform. Yoga pants! Unfortunately, my closet is filled with mostly work clothes. Must go shopping.

I don’t like when people talk about their jobs. My husband and I were at a conference a few weeks ago and we all get to talking. They ask my husband, “So, what do you do?” You know, one of these standard small-talk questions. However, as the conversation about work carried on, it really bothered me that nobody asked me what I did. I mean, at least give me a chance to say I’m a SAHM people. This helped me realize that…

My self-identity is, or was, closely tied to my job. I don’t think this is a bad thing, but after investing over a decade into my profession, I realized I needed to mourn the loss of this very big part of my life. Coincidentally, around the same time, I learned that…

If there’s chocolate, I will eat it. Dark chocolate, milk chocolate, hot chocolate or Nutella. If it’s in the house, it’s gone. And if I can’t find any, I eat the mini chocolate chips I bought for baking home-made cookies, which by the way I never made.

I should’ve gotten the iPhone with the bigger storage. It’s ridiculous the amount of pictures I take of the baby doing the same pose… all. day. long. I can’t help it though – she’s too cute!! The thing is, once the picture is taken, I can’t bring myself to delete it, even if there are 8 other pictures that look just the same. Case in point: image image image image image                           image

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I like wine. Around 6:30 p.m., after a long day with baby and when the boys are going full out crazy before bed-time, a little Sangria can go a long way. In moderation, of course.

2 a.m. is my favorite time of day. This is about the only time everyone is sleeping and I can get some uninterrupted “me” time. The only catch is I should also be sleeping, and I usually am. Basically, what I’m trying to say is I rarely ever get any “me” time. Must work on that.

Now that I don’t have to be somewhere at a certain time, it’s ridiculously hard to get up in the morning. It’s like my body thinks it’s Saturday, every day. Except I still have to get a few kids ready for school. Needless to say, there have been more tardies these past weeks than usual.

If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. My biggest learning is that time flies at home, as opposed to when you’re at work and it seems to drag. Every day I get up, get the kids ready for school (hopefully on time). Nurse the baby. Try to put her down for a nap. Baby wakes up as soon as she feels the bed on her face. Play with baby and read her a book. Keep baby from eating said book. Check Facebook. Instagram. Twitter. Oops, baby’s hungry again. Check to see if my builders finished upgrading my clan’s gold storage and Town Hall yet on Clash of Clans. Before you know it, it’s time to pick up the kids from school – already! I had all these high hopes of cleaning and organizing things around the house and so far all I have to show for the last six weeks is a chunkier baby and one organized closet. Actually, just half of it is organized. Sort of. Lesson learned: need to plan out my day.

Being a mom is a journey in which we are constantly learning and re-learning things about ourselves. Now I want to hear from you about things you’ve learned about yourself along the way, or any tips you can share with me to get this SAHM thing down! Make sure to leave a comment below.

About Nermarí

Mother of three boys, and one baby girl in Sunny South Florida. I'm a public relations expert by trade, and a stay-at-home mom by choice. I'm passionate about mommy issues, natural birth and midwives, family adventures and God.
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7 Responses to What I’ve Learned as a SAHM

  1. Jessica M says:

    LOL “all I have to show for it is a chunkier baby”. I finally realized why I have a hard time giving attention to the hubs after I put the cookie to bed. I seriously don’t get time to myself since having a baby! I used to have gobs of time to myself and now the only time I have to myself is when I go to the gym twice a week for 40 minutes. Seriously!
    2am? I have no idea how you can stay up that long. That would give me a 2 hour sleep every night.
    And pictures? I started putting them on a hard drive because I couldn’t delete them either.

    • Nermarí says:

      I know! It’s crazy. I don’t stay up that late very often b/c I’m usually exhausted by 9p.m.! But the few times I have, I’ve been able to just be without someone asking me for something. :) Priceless!

  2. Aracelis says:

    I’m lol! It’s my second year being a full time stay at home mom and you just described the first few months of my own journey at home. I felt that I lost myseft when I had no “professional tittle” to say I mattered; however, one day I came to the realization that my “job” Is the best and most important job in the world. I’m mom to my two beautiful, sweet, and smart children.
    My job isn’t glamous, mostly due to the yoga pants I wear even when it isn’t a gym day; it is an adventure!
    Love reading your blogs…

  3. Vivian Gloria says:

    Nermari, you couldn’t be more spot on. About a month and a half before I had Sophia I cut my hours at work to part time; working about 15-20 hours a week. That was a big deal for me; it was refreshing and I loved it. I’ve never not worked full time. (Never say never, and don’t speak in absolutes, I know, but – it’s the truth) Two/ three week vacations in a year, is just not enough to spend quality time with family and kids. So, for the first time since I had my son Valentino I finally had some time to spend with him. We took him out of after care and I began to pick him up at 2pm like a SAHM – I love(ed) it! — picking him up with all the other moms, carrying in that feeling of “Yeah, I’m a good mom too.” I was reminded of how I much I didn’t miss the judgmental looks I’d get (or maybe it was just my own guilt causing it) when I would storm in five past 6pm at after school apologizing for being late because traffic was crazy.
    Spending more time at home and with my son has been amazing. I can sit through his homework and a snack in utter peace and patience and not have to rush him to finish, so he can go to bed at a decent hour.
    It was a rude awakening for me and it saddened me to think he is 6 and I missed out on so much. How can I go back to make it up!? I can’t. He deserves so much more than what I’d given him.
    With all that being said ..the bottom line is I learned something too. And what I do with that lesson is what’s going to really matter today and tomorrow.
    I have eleven weeks left of FMLA to do it all! wow!
    And I’m sure like every mom during their Leave I’ll be vacillating between being a career mom or a SAHM for the next three months. :/
    Nermari – thank you for your blogs I really enjoy them and look forward to the next one.
    (Valentino’s had more tardys since I’ve been home too… Go figure! Lol)

    Vivian Gloria

  4. It is a big adjustment but something I wouldn’t give up for the world. My husband values the things I do so we couldn’t care less what anyone else thinks. I try to get up and get ready for the day before everyone else…if not I’m still in my pajamas…I mean yoga pants by dinner. :)

  5. Leah says:

    LOVE your little guy can I just pinch his rolls!!! LOL I am never done learning is my motto! I can relate with many of these! Self reflection is a great thing!!

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